Making water Kefir insert for the Real Health Show on DSTV. Learn how to make water Kefir, and buy your kefir here.
There are loads of reasons to meditate, this is why I do it, and the reason I recommend it to my clients.
We are making up our felt experience of every day by the way we think about it. If that is true, perhaps we don’t need to be taking our thoughts so very seriously.
Our unmet expectation in relationships are a source of pain and discomfort. Wouldn’t it be great if they would just….. Haha, that never going to happen! So what now?
When we recognise that everyone wants to feel loveable, acceptable and good about themselves, we can change the way we communicate about the things we want, the way we ask and reward people with determine how they are willing to do things for us next time we ask
Check out my bring your husband to heel blog if this one intrigued you.
December, and I have started ruminating about this year and the new year. This is the first in my series of blogs around the resolutions that I believe are the secrets to loving myself, and living a peaceful, joyful life. There are some things that just work! Lets see if there is something here to touch and inspire your own ruminations for the new year.
In the studio recording the Real Health Show for DSTV’s Home Channel again today. Our topic – brain health – fuzzy thinking, what to do about it. With the other beautiful guests Nutritional Jeanne, and Hypnotherapist Yvonne, and of course the host Stacy Norman. Keep an eye out for the details of when it will be aired.
Well…. who doesn’t want to be a TV Celebrity? Turns out that being a guest on a chat show are is great fun. Everything that looks like work happens behind the scenes, and all I have to do is pitch up, meet some lovely new people and yab on about the things no one can stop me yabbing about any way. Thanks to all the lovely people behind the scenes – you are superstars.
Meet my new friends:
Yes, yes, yes! These are the things I teach my clients every day, but I could not have said it better in just 20 min.
Today a new friend told me that her husband has developed a back problem and is going in for back surgery. I let her know as carefully as I could that I thought that was a very bad idea. What I wanted to do was scream NOOOOOOOO!!!! You must be out of your cotton picking mind – this is the beggining of the end!!! Don’t do it!!!!. All at the top of my lungs.
The other day a friend told me she is considering surgery for hectic tennis elbow. She is a photographer – tendinitis of the elbow is a serous issue for her, and she is at the end of her tether. We have been good friends for 15 years – to her I said Absolutely categorically, under no circumstances am I allowing you to do that!!!
Tendinitis of the elbow, is simply another term for inflammation of the elbow. There is nothing structurally wrong with her elbow, in fact her elbow is inflamed because it is twisting incorrectly to compensate for restricted movement in her shoulder, which may well be originating from an elevated hip.
Sheeeew – I know, I may be a little over passionate about this, I can get a little bit excitable. I just can’t stand to see someone go get cut open and cause long term issues down the line when the body has to find some other way to function with its dysfunction.
For the last 3 months I have been studying all about the chronic pain that results from dysfunctional physical posture. I have been hard at work fixing my own posture – which is sadly not that upright, and for years has given me a lot of very uncomfortable tension in my shoulders, and after heavy sports pain in my knee and hip. I am sold. Between this an my physical Kinesiology technique, I am standing more and more upright, and experiencing less and less pain every day.
I know that fixing my posture will in addition to getting rid of the pain right now, but will also protect me from injury later on. No knee or hipreplacement for me in my 70’s thank you very much.
Now that I know what I know, I firmly believe that any long term physical pain can be corrected without surgery. Specifically if it has developed rather then is a result of a major accident or trauma. Yes, including bad knees, tendinitis, herniated disks, scoliosis, pain as a result of sport, or sitting at a desk for hours at a time.
If you get pain – consider it a message that your posture is not functional – you do not need surgery, anti-inflammatory or to give up your sport, these simply mask the “symptoms” that is pain – the symptoms that are telling you loudly and clearly that your body is not functioning as it should. They are all temporary fixes at best, which simply send the problem up the line to your next joint or muscle.
I recommend reading Pete Egoscue’s book Pain Free (for those into helping themselves,) or if you want a quicker cure, come see me for a physical Kinesiology session, and postural correction.
My rant for the day, done.
More than anything else in our lives, it is our limiting beliefs and sabotage programs that keep us from achieving what we really be achieve and succeed at in our lives. Mostly, these limiting beliefs and sabotage programs are unconscious thinking . something we have learned and internalized from childhood – as a result of hearing and seeing our parents, teachers and preachers, and from our own interpretation of our personal experience and what that means about how the world works. These beliefs and sabotage programs undermine our efforts on a unconscious level, stopping us from getting what we want. That is why, when I do Kinesiology and coaching sessions, this is one of the first thing we check for and the first thing we address.
Let me give you a couple of examples to show how this works. (below is a very small extract of some of the many many unconscious beliefs you could have.)
If you want to have more money in your life, but you have an unconscious belief that:
“Money doesn’t grow on trees”
“Wealthy people get their money by stealing or taking from others”
“To be wealthy, I would have to sacrifice other things in my life”
“Rich people are arrogant a-holes”
“Money corrupts the soul”
“you have to be corrupt to make serious money
It follows, that if you are a person who does not identify with being corrupt, the unconscious belief that you need to be corrupt to have serious money will keep you from allowing yourself to make serious money. Your unconscious mind does not allow you to go there, for fear of becoming corrupt, which it will not allow you to do. If you do not want to be an arrogant person, but believe that rich people are arrogant, then you cannot allow yourself to be rich, in order to avoid being an arrogant person.
If you want to loose weight or have a healthier fitter lifestyle, but have some any of the following unconscious beliefs or others:
“if I am slim I will have to be perfect in other ways – or people will expect me to be perfect”
“to be slim and healthy, I will have limit what I eat and do”
“If I eat a healthy diet, it will be a problem in my family or social circle”
“I need to be directed by some outside authority to loose weight”
It follows, that if you have to be perfect if you are slim, and you are afraid of being judged as not perfect, you cannot afford to be slim. Or if you love life, and you believe you will have to limit your life to be healthy and slim, you are not going to allow yourself to be that.
If you want to have great self esteem but have any of the following unconscious beliefs or others:
“people who love themselves are arrogant or selfish, or don’t love others, or are vain.”
“if I don’t judge myself harshly, I will not do better”
“I need to speak to myself harshly, and pay a lot of attention to my flaws to be a better person”
“I would have self worth or self esteem if I had a better body/job/car/partner etc.”
If you want to have a great relationship but you have any of the following unconscious beliefs or others:
“I am unlovable”
“no one would really love me if they knew me well”
“Men or woman cannot be trusted not to cheat”
“Men or woman only want one thing”
It follows that is you can’t trust let yourself believe or trust in the relationship, it will never be all it could be.
Limiting beliefs and self sabotage programs, are often difficult to spot in ourselves, because they are so unconscious, and go unquestioned for so long. If you want to work on them yourself, without professional help, I suggest you write a list of the beliefs you hold true about something (such as the list above) – and then go about interrogating them, and coming up with reasons why they may not be true. What you have to keep in mind, is that the “survival brain” really wants to be right. For beliefs, that means that when it comes across a thought or belief that it thinks is true, it searches for evidence that is it true, unfortunately at the same time completely discounting evidence that it is not.
So if for instance you have been believing that “people who love themselves are arrogant or selfish, or don’t love others, or are vain” you will certainly find evidence to prove that it true. Some vain arrogant people will pass through your life, who appear to love themselves. However, those that truly love themselves, as opposed to their power or wealth or image in the world, will have no reason to put on the protective crust of vanity and arrogance. Your belief will lead you to discount those kind, loving people which quiet confidence that touch your life, not recognizing that it is the ability for them to love themselves, unconditionally, that allows them to go through life with an open heart, unconcerned and not needing to protect themselves from the judgement of others.
If you are finding the work hard to do alone, well, I am always happy to help, after all, it is what I love to do.