Category Archives: Mind Body Healing

The relationship between mind and body in creating disease and healing

Resolution pollution – how about just choosing what makes you happy?

New years resolutions – ha! Someone asked me what mine were for this year, I suppose they were expecting the usual – more work, more money, more success, more exercise, quit this, do that.
If I am perfectly honest with myself, I would have to say that if I really wanted those things, I would be sufficiently motivated to be doing them already, and not waiting for the new year. It is a strange phenomena that we expect our future self to be more motivated, more energized, more willing to do the “right thing”, the “hard work” than our current selves are. Then surprise, surprise, our future self turns out to be just as “slack” about getting those things as our current selves.

For myself, I have not set a New Years resolution for at least 10 years. I find that honesty is the best policy, and I do try to be as honest as possible with myself. Following the “know thyself” principal, I pretty much know what I want to do, and what I really don’t, what I will be willing to do and what I won’t, and I don’t try to con myself.
Ironically, my honesty doesn’t make me a lazy slacker. While I am working on being a human being – I am, by my very nature a human doing. I still have dreams, goals, plans, and I have every intention of perusing them, with energy and enthusiasm, but here is the plan…….

Instead of creating a list of everything I “should” or “must” do, I think about what I want to create for the year, and see if it makes my heart sing. How do I know if it makes my heart sing? My whole body says “YES” when I think about it. I feel energized, motivated and alive, sometimes with a frisson of fear, or peaceful, calm and content,
If I feel like I am losing energy, my body gets heavy, my chest feels a weight on it, my breathing becomes restricted, it is not for me.

So when I think about doing 10 hours of training every week for badminton – grooving new shots, playing games, drenched with sweat in the heat of Feb and going out in the cold in winter, losing, wining, putting myself out there in competition, socializing with the badminton crowd, my toes start wiggling my knees start bouncing and I am ready to go.
When I think of the new course I am taking about postural structural alignment, I can’t wait to get going.

MY RECIPE FOR A HAPPY LIFE:
Make a list of the things that make your heart sing, and a list of the things that you are currently doing every day – adjust accordingly

PS. If you want to have great self esteem, and feel successful, do the things you are good at – the things you love, are very likely going to be the things you are good at. I am going to be so much better at studying postural alignment then I was at studying accounts at Varsity. And because I am fascinated and intrigued, I will be fabulous, and think my self awesome!

This is what I believe to be true

When my husband asked me what makes my heart sing, I realized that it is the work I do around self esteem, self worth, self love, self healing turns me on like a firecracker. When I talk about developing self esteem, and mind body healing, my eyes light up, I can’t sit still, and frankly you would be hard pressed to shut me up.

Around self esteem: I believe that it is a fundamental human desire to be loved and accepted. This desire unfulfilled or perceived as unfulfilled in childhood leaves us with low self esteem, a lack of self love and a lack of self acceptance.

An unfulfilled, longing to be loved and accepted is a massive driving force in so much of what we do, how we behave, what we strive for, but much more importantly, how we feel about ourselves. Not feeling loved and accepted in childhood, leads to a lifetime of feeling unlovable and unacceptable.

The constant drive to be worthy, to be perfect, to be better, to be good enough, to prove again and again, leaves us feeling worn out, depressed, addicted, and unhappy.

I know and believe passionately that there is a solution, and I know without a doubt learning to love yourself is the solution. I know for a fact, that when it that changes, everything in life changes with it.

As my friend Trinisha so aptly put it: 

“You cannot blame yourself into happiness, judge yourself into contentment, criticize yourself into wholeness or punish yourself into fulfillment. Instead, you must love yourself into them.”-Scripts of my Soul

Sadly loving yourself is easier said then done, when you come from a place of lack of acceptability, and love-ability. In order to do it, you have to identify and change a whole heap of underlying beliefs, sometimes some values around self love, and do a whole lot of healing around experiences from your early years. Tough (perhaps impossible) to do alone. So people come to me for self esteem coaching, and when I walking that path with my clients fills my life with purpose, and meaning.

Around Mind-body healing: I believe that we designed to heal ourselves. While I do not discount the value of modern medicine for survival, I know that the body ultimately must heal itself, and to heal itself, I must have the resources in place that allow healing to happen.  I believe in taking responsibility for my own health, for my own mind, and for my own well being, and that taking responsibility, means sorting out my nervous system functioning, my emotional state, my nutrition, and my bodies response to stress, because I know that I cannot heal unless I am willing to look at and correct all of these aspects.

Even though I have been a great proponent of mind body healing of most of my life, it has only been since I started doing Kinesiology, that I have really found a way to unlock that system in a way that is sometimes quite mind blowing. Having the skills to help my with my clients who are ill or hurting physically or emotionally, is another great privilege and passion in my life.

My 3 best ways to manage stress

MY 3 BEST WAYS TO MANAGE STRESS:

1. FLOATATION THERAPY Is the easiest way to decrease stress hormones while simply resting. Since it is stress hormones that create all the physical

l side effects of stress, you need to find a way of getting rid of the_MG_3057 (Custom)_smallm, as fast as you are creating them. Floatation is proven to decrease stress hormones, and increase endorphins (happy hormones), in the space of just one hour. If you need to manage your stress and don’t want to have to work on it, this is my first recommendation. For more about Floatation Therapy www.cloud-nine.co.za

2. GET PRESENT AND MASTER YOUR THOUGHTS.

Since 90% of your day is really quite nice, (even when you are having a difficult run), your ability to focus your attention, and mood, on what is really happening around you at any one time, will give you a 90% lovely day.

It is the brewing, story creating, and living in the IMG_2214 smallpast or future that messes with a lovely day. It is your thoughts that make you mad, sad,unhappy, stressed out. So learn to get present, and control your thinking. In the book Clarity (which I highly recommend), Jamie Smart talks about living in the feelings of your thinking. You can learn to change your thinking, and so change your feeling, and your whole life experience.

If you are having a hard time of letting go of the past, controlling your thinking, or creating a happy life, you can always come see me for some Kinesiology/NLP. You will be blown away by how powerful it is to change the way you feel about things. For More about Kinesiolgy/NLP coaching, check out my web site www,cloud-nine/v1

3. MEDITATE DAILY. I know, it seems hard to do, but there are loads of different ways to meditate, keep searching and you will find a way that works for you. Don’t get caught up in and disheartened by the myths around silence, stillness, immobility, ability, that abound. There are loads of places you can learn to meditate and meditate with a group, that will help you are a beginner, so get started.IMG_2224 small

By the way, stress is a major player in all disease from heart, to cancer, to autoimmune disease, to catching a simple cold Stress fundamentally affects your bodies physiological functioning, including it’s ability keep you healthy and to heal. So if you do anything at all for yourself, do something to manage your stress, everyday!

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It is neither good nor bad….

My Favorite story
So, today I was reminded of the following story. I absolutely love this story, it reminds me that we judge things are normally good or bad, because they do or don’t fit into our plan – it is not the situation itself but the judgment on them that makes them feel “good” or “bad’ to us, and our emotional response follows.

I didn’t, unfortunately make the story up, and sadly don’t know who to credit it to. It goes like this:

There was an old man living in a small village in a small country. He owned a beautiful white stallion which was the envy of every one who saw it. It came to the attention of the emperor, who sent an agent to buy the stallion. But the man loved the horse and refused the generous offer. His fellow villagers thought him mad – “that kind of money is not easy to come by.” They remonstrated.

Some time later the stallion broke out of it’s corral and ran off. “you see’, cried the villagers, it was a bad thing that you did not sell the horse for now you have no horse and no money.” The old man replied “It is neither good nor bad, it simply is what it is, for we can never know the whole story”.

Some time later the stallion returned to the village trailing behind him a brood of wild mares that he had picked up in the mountains. “You were right’ cried the villagers “good thing that the horse ran off, now you have a whole herd.” The old man replied “It is neither good nor bad, it simply is what it is, for we can never know the whole story”.

Some time later the old man’s son was breaking one of the wild mares for the saddle, and he was thrown and broke both his legs, becoming lame. “Oh ho,” the villages pronounced “it was a bad thing that the horse came back with this herd, now your son is lame. Better to have no horses then a lame son.” The old man replied “It is neither good nor bad, it simply is what it is, for we can never know the whole story”.

Some time later the small country went to war with it’s neighbor, and the emperor started a conscription campaign, conscripting all the young men in the villages of the land. The villages knew that their sons were unlikely to make it home alive. “Who would have thought, it is a good thing your son is lame, at least he will survive this terrible war, when our sons will most likely die” they declared to the old man “It is neither good nor bad, it simply is what it is, for we can never know the whole story”.

Chronic pain – how it works

Chronic pain – how and why the body produces it.

A fascinating and quite funny youtube video for those who are interested in Pain and the role that the brain plays in producing and reducing it. In some way it goes to explaining why kinesiology can work so well with pain, in that we are working on some of the mechanisms that create pain in the brain.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-3NmTE-fJSo&feature=youtu.be