Weight problems, obesity – so many people suffer from this problem. If you are one of them, you have probably been on numerous diets, with only short term results, and just ended up back where you started or worse off.
The simple truth is, that for most of us, losing weight and keeping a healthy weight is about eating the right amount of energy to fuel the body for the work it has to do, and no more, in the form that your particular hormonal balance can make use of. The majority of people who are overweight take in more energy (especially in the form of carbohydrates) then the body needs, which, when it is unused, is deposited as fat.
The far more complicated truth is about what drives us to consume more energy then we need. This could range from food addictions (ie food as a drug) to emotional eating, socio-economic factors, sedentary lifestyle, sabotage programs, (self protection or secondary gain), food sensitivities, external cues like large portion sizes or simply, mindlessly, taking in more slightly calories than you need over a long period of time. The list goes on and on.
For a long term solution, if we can understand and work with the aspects of why and when and under what circumstances we eat more then we need to stay healthy and at a healthy weight, we can more easily, even quite unconsciously, make lifestyle changes that will ultimately lead to and maintain a healthy weight.
Just “going on diet”, or trying to lose weight without understanding and working to remove these factors, we can expect them to lie in wait for us as soon as the diet is over, to drive us back into the cycle of gaining weight all over again. This is where personal development fits in to can turn you weight loss / healthy lifestyle quest into a long term reality.
Of course there are other factors that influence weight that we also take into account. Thyroid function, insulin resistance, the influence of drugs, even genetic conditions.
It seems wise to follow the advice of author Anita Johnston, who suggests that when it comes to dieting and eating disorders, we should abandon the idea that food is the problem or that calorie counting is the answer. Johnston tells her readers not to get “distracted by the illusion that thinness creates happiness, or be sidetracked by the belief that all we need is enough willpower to stick to a diet”. Rather, she invites them to have enough “willingness to go forward on the right path”.
So rather than trying to manipulate the body to create a change in the emotional system, it does seem that ultimately it works the other way around: To use the words of the Greek author Plutarch “What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality”. So if you feel that it is important that you loose some weight, a healthier path could be one in which you choose to practice “fit” rather than “fat” behaviour around food.
As a Personal Development Specialist I make use of Kinesiology, NLP and other modalities that allow us to very easily work with understanding and removing the cues and drives for “fat” behaviour. To shift your thinking and behaviour around food to that of a healthy slim person, rather than as overweight person or dieter. As a result of the change in attitude and behaviour, your weight changes. Weight loss becomes a side effect of, or peripheral to, much more important shifts in your relationship with food and your body.
With Angela you can explore your real needs and drivers, and move easily towards a healthier relationship with food. Ultimately, I don’t suggest you worry about dieting at all. This is not about creating will power to deprive yourself for as long as it takes, only to fall back into old habits. And it is not about losing 10kg in one month! (though those adverts are very tempting) It is about changing things so that you can continue to eat what you love, when you want to, but slowly but surely decrease your weight while your relationship to food changes (What you eat, how much, when and why). In fact, you should be patient. Changing your lifestyle you should expect no more then around 500gms to 1 kg per month, but this without “dieting” at all. If it seems slow, consider that this is a long term, sustainable life change. Think back to the diets that had you losing weight faster, only to put it all back on quicker then you lost it. We are looking for a different out-come, that means changing the way we do things.
This is about developing a relationship with your body, where you are no longer in a punishing or survival frame, so that your brain and your body can work together, to create what you want in your life.
I recommend a commitment to 10 sessions over a period of 4 to 6 months, so that every factor contributing to your particular weight issue can be dealt with in turn.
Disclaimer: The journey of personal development, healing, developing self esteem and self love are a deeply individual experiences, how long it takes and the results achieved, do vary from person to person.