I want to tell you a story about one of my clients (with his permission of course). We had been doing some work together on a few issues in his life, and building on those we did a session about anger, the next time I saw him he said something to me that I thought was brilliant!
But first, let me tell you a bit more of his story. He told me that his anger had been sucking all the joy out of his life for as long as he could remember. He was angry pretty much all the time about one thing or another. People, circumstances, the smallest thing could piss him off, and have him fuming instantly. Can you relate? I know I can. There was a time in my life that I was moody, irritable and angry, a LOT.
In a single session about anger, he had a few valuable insights that really shifted his understanding and perspective. The next time I saw him, things had changed radically.
He said to me “Ang, I realize now that my happiness, my capacity to be at peace and enjoy my life has been hanging around inside me all this time. When I get angry over something, it is like I take it, gift wrap it and give it away to someone else. The worst part is, I haven’t been giving my joy away to just anyone, I have been giving it away to the very arsehole who pissed me off in the first place! I am not giving my happiness away to arseholes ever again!”
When I teach my clients about the principle of how thought actually works to create our felt experience of life, things change pretty quickly. Clients often come to see me about to learn about Anger Management, but the great news is that you really don’t have to learn to manage anger, it is not a difficult herculean task to become a person who can learn to control terrible forces of anger and have to exercise great will power in the future to keep it under wraps. All we need is to debunk a few old miss-understandings, to never have to manage anger again.
Love yourself, love your life
Disclaimer: The journey of personal development, healing, developing self esteem and self love are a deeply individual experiences, how long it takes and the results achieved, do vary from person to person.