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This is what I believe to be true

When my husband asked me what makes my heart sing, I realized that it is the work I do around self esteem, self worth, self love, self healing turns me on like a firecracker. When I talk about developing self esteem, and mind body healing, my eyes light up, I can’t sit still, and frankly you would be hard pressed to shut me up.

Around self esteem: I believe that it is a fundamental human desire to be loved and accepted. This desire unfulfilled or perceived as unfulfilled in childhood leaves us with low self esteem, a lack of self love and a lack of self acceptance.

An unfulfilled, longing to be loved and accepted is a massive driving force in so much of what we do, how we behave, what we strive for, but much more importantly, how we feel about ourselves. Not feeling loved and accepted in childhood, leads to a lifetime of feeling unlovable and unacceptable.

The constant drive to be worthy, to be perfect, to be better, to be good enough, to prove again and again, leaves us feeling worn out, depressed, addicted, and unhappy.

I know and believe passionately that there is a solution, and I know without a doubt learning to love yourself is the solution. I know for a fact, that when it that changes, everything in life changes with it.

As my friend Trinisha so aptly put it: 

“You cannot blame yourself into happiness, judge yourself into contentment, criticize yourself into wholeness or punish yourself into fulfillment. Instead, you must love yourself into them.”-Scripts of my Soul

Sadly loving yourself is easier said then done, when you come from a place of lack of acceptability, and love-ability. In order to do it, you have to identify and change a whole heap of underlying beliefs, sometimes some values around self love, and do a whole lot of healing around experiences from your early years. Tough (perhaps impossible) to do alone. So people come to me for self esteem coaching, and when I walking that path with my clients fills my life with purpose, and meaning.

Around Mind-body healing: I believe that we designed to heal ourselves. While I do not discount the value of modern medicine for survival, I know that the body ultimately must heal itself, and to heal itself, I must have the resources in place that allow healing to happen.  I believe in taking responsibility for my own health, for my own mind, and for my own well being, and that taking responsibility, means sorting out my nervous system functioning, my emotional state, my nutrition, and my bodies response to stress, because I know that I cannot heal unless I am willing to look at and correct all of these aspects.

Even though I have been a great proponent of mind body healing of most of my life, it has only been since I started doing Kinesiology, that I have really found a way to unlock that system in a way that is sometimes quite mind blowing. Having the skills to help my with my clients who are ill or hurting physically or emotionally, is another great privilege and passion in my life.