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How to deal with anxiety and depression in young adults and teens

This is Sabrina. A 21 year old, high performing medical student. She suffered from crippling anxiety and stress, as well as a lack of self-confidence and self-worth. This is what she had to say at the end of her last session on the love yourself love your life program with Angela

Just yesterday another one of my friends told me that her teenage daughter is suffering from anxiety. She is seeing a psychologist and has been put onto anti-anxiety medication. They find that the medication helps, to some degree, but of course does not in any way solve the problem, and their kid remains anxious and depressed despite the drugs and therapy. 

What is really going on here, and what is the solution? 

Anxiety is caused by anxious thinking, and there is a lot of that going on. Worry about the future, fear of failure, fear of judgment, self judgement, performance anxiety etc. Seems pretty obvious right? 
But then why prescribe drugs? Good question.
Anxious thinking creates chemicals in the body which are taken up into the cells and experienced as the feeling of anxiety (part of the fight or flight response) This is a perfectly reasonable and natural response to poor quality thinking that seems very real and scary. 
The drugs are designed to interfere with this process. It’s like trying to put a kink in a hose coming from an open tap.
A better solution is to turn off the tap!

The solution lies in understanding the cause and addressing that:
All  anxiety is caused by our thinking whether unconscious or conscious. 
Thinking has 2 parts: 
Conscious thought – thought we you are aware of, can be changed into a very different landscape, by simply becoming aware the thinking you are doing and what it is doing to you, and learning the powerful skill of not buying into it.
Unconscious thought, dictated by unconscious sabotages and beliefs are much more sneaky, but with a little help they too can be uncovered and re-wired, remarkably easily.

If your teenager or young adult child is suffering form anxiety and/depression there are only 2 possibilities: 
Drugs to moderate but not cure, with their many side effects, possibly for the rest of their lives. You may be trying this already.
Or  regain mental health and happiness in a natural and healthy way  by understanding and mastering the mind, changing habitual thinking patterns and clearing sabotaging programs and belief systems that are keeping them cycling into anxiety and depression. Mental health for life.   

If you are looking for a compassionate, powerful guide to finding your own happiness, self worth or unconditional self-love, give me a call.